There are many different paths that God can lead us to in our lives. Every path that God calls us to leads to a greater purpose that is more than just ourselves. When you are a follower of Jesus, it is more than just about our own path and more to do with God’s higher will.
One path that men and women can be called to, is marriage. But specifically today, I want to talk about women being called to be a wife.
Having a desire to be married and be a wife is a special call on one’s life. The women that are called to that special union of marriage is marked with significance.
From the beginning, God first created man to fulfill all of God’s purposes through that creation. But in Genesis 2:18-24, “ The Lord God said it is not good for man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him..”
Simply, women were made to be a companion and helper to man. I know that as a new wife to my husband, I always want to help and make his life and days easier. Women were created to have an important role and job in life. Not every woman is called to marriage and that is ok. Every woman has a unique purpose. But I am writing to the ones who do feel called in their hearts to be a wife or you already are.
If God has called you to be a wife, there is so much magnitude in that. It is a blessing and you are a blessing to your husband.
When I started writing this, I knew I could go in many different directions with this subject because I am a wife myself and even though I am a young wife, I feel God has already taught me so much about being a devoted and godly wife. He is still growing me each and every day. And I know throughout my whole lifetime, He will continue to grow and stretch me as my role as a wife. And I absolutely love that the process of growth never stops. It makes marriage fun and it challenges you to continue to love deeper every single day.
I wanted to write about growing as a wife and what/where to look to, to keep growing in our pursuit as an everyday wife.
God is the highest model and epitome to look to for love because God is love. So, if we want to grow in love and as a wife, we should look to God first and foremost, because he teaches us in His word how to love deeply.
In the bible, there are many people and lessons that we can learn from and model after. But I want to focus on two pieces of scripture because they directly relate to wives.
I know for myself, I am constantly asking God and looking to Him to show me how to be a good wife to my husband. As believers in Jesus, we have a resource that can guide us as wives and how to love and serve our husbands well. The bible and God himself, show us what true unconditional love looks like.
Now, we will never be perfect in our pursuit because we are all flawed humans and not God. But asking God to allow us to grow into the wives He calls us to be, according to His word, is a beautiful prayer we can speak on the norm. Because He will answer us and show us the way.
The first piece of scripture I want to focus on that God has guided me to for growth is in 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8
These are very popular verses, often used in wedding vows.
But they are so much more, than eloquent words uttered during your wedding ceremony. They are verses that you can apply to your marriage and who you are as a wife.
Now, I can’t take credit for this, but God led me to these verses and someone who explained how to apply them in your walk in marriage. It made me view these verses completely different.
1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 reads,
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no records of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always, hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails..”
So, how do you apply this to your walk as a wife?
Where it says love and “it”, replace with your name. Here is the example with my name:
“Steph is patient
Steph is kind.
Steph does not envy
Steph does not boast
Steph is not proud.
Steph does not dishonor others
Steph is not self seeking
Steph is not easily angered
Steph keeps no records of wrong”, and so on.
This is an amazing template and highest model of what love is and what we as wives and husbands can look to.
You can reference these verses often and I would even commit them to memory. By even speaking it out loud replacing your name, like I did, we can assess where and what areas we need growth in. We can pray specifically for those areas and God will begin to work in us and through us, to show a deeper love to our husbands.
This has been a huge blessing to me and really has shown me where I am strong and where I need some work.
The next piece of scripture to apply to your wife walk is Proverbs 31.
Proverbs 31 is an epilogue named, The Wife of Noble Character.
It is pretty cool that God’s word gives you this specific proverb for wives. Especially that it is named the wife of noble character, because that is what I know I want to grow in and it is labeled in plain sight. Thank you God, haha.
Now, I know when I read this the first time, it was overwhelming. It is very, very detailed and it can feel like a long list of qualities that feel out of reach or things we simply are not.
At first glance, the wife being described in this scripture, seems like Wonder Woman.
But instead of viewing it as a wife or woman that we cannot become, I would rather view it as a wife that you already are. Don’t forget that God created you in His image and He made you with all those amazing qualities. I know you can read that and have feelings of defeat and feeling like you can never measure up to a biblical wife, but if He has called you to be a wife, God made you with a heart for the job.
God made you with all the noble qualities described in proverbs 31 already and you can grow in each one through prayer everyday.
It lists beautiful ways to serve our husbands, love deeply, and have confidence in ourselves and our heavenly Father.
At the end of the day, being a wife is an immense blessing. Marriage as a whole is a beautiful covenant between two people and God.
If we seek God in how to love our husbands well, we can make our husband feel deeply loved by displaying God’s great, unconditional love for us.
If we continue to keep praying for growth and intentionally work on the areas we need growth in our lives and character, the more we can emulate God himself in our homes and I believe that is what our homes and the world need more of.
I know in this day and culture, they tell you to put number one first, meaning yourself. But biblically, it is all about putting others first and serving with your whole heart. There is so much more beauty and reward in the Lord’s path for our lives as wives. HE will teach you to love deeper and your marriage will be immensely blessed because of His caring hand over our marriages.
I hope this encouraged you in your walk as a wife and if you have the desire to be a wife someday, I pray this points you in the right direction to love deeper and on a holy level when that season comes.
All for Jesus,