What do you let define you?



In todays society, it is so easy to let the worldly titles, what other people think of you, and the wrong things define you and your self worth.

So my question is, what do you let define you?

People define you by what kind of job you have, the degree or number of degrees you have, what kind of car you have, how big your house is, your weight, how tan your skin is, how many friends you have, and the list is never ending..

I have let this worldly way of thinking pollute my mind and take captive of my thought life for far too long.

My worth was tied into all these different things around me but it was not until my relationship with Jesus strengthened and He opened my eyes to see the truth.

The beautiful truth that set me free from putting my worth into all these things that truly mean nothing in the light of the cross.

I love the verse Colossians 3:2 that says, set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.

I feel this verse can be directly applied to your worth and how you view it because what the world puts importance on, isn’t what Jesus views as significant.

Set your mind on who Jesus says you are and not on the ways of this world.

It was through many ways that God showed me what He thinks of me, how he views me and what my worth is.

He laid upon my path many godly mentors that has shed amazing wisdom and spoke that worth into me and only God could know how to do that and what would speak to my heart the most profoundly.

But what speaks the most to my worth is, the bible.

I like to think of the bible as looking through the eyes of Jesus and what he thinks and feels about everything we could experience in this life.

It is His love letter to us and He tells us who we really are, because He knew that this broken world will speak lies into our hearts and we would believe them at times.

It is packed with wisdom, life stories, and lessons that we can all learn from and it allows us to mature in Christ everyday.

Reading the words in the bible, on what and who God says I am, not the world or what other people have thought or said about me, but what the God that created the universe says about me, that changed everything for me.

This topic was laid upon my heart to write about because I have struggled with this for longer than I care to admit.

I feel like we have all struggled with this at some point and is such a significant topic because how we view ourselves and our self worth will determine the path of our life.

I just want to let others know how much worth and purpose they have through Jesus’s eyes, because whose you are, holds so much weight and is a game changer when you know where your worth comes from. 

You can take the pressure off of what the world tells you and be all that God intended you to be in Christ.

Everyones story is different, but we have all felt at some point in our lives discouraged, like we do not measure up to what the world “expects” of us, and we all need to be reminded of what our Father in heaven feels and says about us because that is the ONLY truth and we need to let that truth soak into our hearts a little deeper.

Your titles and worldly status can be ever changing in your lifetime, that is why it is SO SO important we do not put our worth into the things of this world.

Our worth comes from above: It is rooted in Jesus and that will never change and we should thank God for that.

Because I don’t know about you, but when I start to put my worth into the things of the this world, I feel discouraged and not enough in a matter of seconds.

My worth is in Jesus Christ.

Just by saying my worth is in Jesus out loud when I am struggling with this, makes me feel calm and at peace in an instant.

My worth comes from the one who breathed me into existence and that is a powerful thing.

Do I always live this way?

No, because I am only human and I let the worldly titles sometimes get to me and my thought life.

And coming from a background where I was not necessarily taught that my worth came from Jesus, it took my a long time to shift my thinking and understand this.

But it wasn’t really about shifting my thinking, learning who Jesus and God working in my life and on my heart that it hit me like a ton of bricks one day of what I mean to Christ and where my worth comes from.


Do not let people define your worth

Aside from the worldly things and titles that can consume us and our worth, people can make this struggle challenging as well.

When someone pre judges you or makes a harsh statement about you, it can hurt and those words can stay with you and hurt your heart.

The most important thing to take away from a difficult exchange with someone, is to not carry it too far with you.

Those words and offenses may stay with you forever because it was toxic, degrading, and words can really hurt, but never let the words someone said to you about your self worth dictate how you live and what YOU think about yourself.

Other’s words about what we can do in this life and our self worth can hurt, but the words God speaks over you will always win.

I have learned it is always your choice on what words you will choose to determine your life.

Jesus or people?

It is your choice.

Think of Jesus as your best friend.

He lifts you up, encourages you always, and loves you more than you can ever know.

He wants you to view yourself as valuable and show you just how precious you are to him.

It breaks His heart when you struggle over your worth and put your worth in a worldly box because your worth is created from Jesus and is wrapped by heaven.

It is a beautiful gift from Him to us and I think is more precious than people realize.

I thank God my worth is in Him and not in this world or the successes of this world.

If you have or are struggling with where your self worth is or are attaching it to your success in your job title, relationship status, or what kind of degree you have, etc, I understand and you are not alone.

But this is the best part:

Jesus does not attach your worth to any of those things but rather who you are according to him.

You may be asking, well, who does Jesus say I am?

He says you are, whole, forgiven, redeemed, loved, a child of His, royalty, and more precious than any diamond or amount of money there is.

And that is just the start of the depth and breadth of the love He has for you.

So remember that next time you question your worth.

Don’t make the mistake of attaching your worth to mere titles of this world and or what somebody said to you, because Jesus wants us to know the truth and the truth is you are made in His perfect love and image and that is more valuable than anything we could ever fathom.


“ Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart, I appointed you as a prophet to the nations.” – Jeremiah 1:5


All for Jesus,


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